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MOST PARENTS HAVE MIXED FEELINGS about achieving empty-nest status. They miss their kids but take great pride in knowing they’ve set them on the path to financial independence. So, when a major report comes out documenting an increase in the return of “boomerang kids” — young adults coming home to live with their parents — there’s cause for concern. According to a 2024 PEW Research report, 57% of young adults aged 18-34 currently live with their parents — up from 53% 30 years ago. If they’re not living with their parents, many get help with rent or mortgage payments: According to a new Better Money Habits Bank of America survey, “2024: The state of Gen Z’s financial health,” 54% of Generation Z don’t pay for their own housing.

Clearly, for many parents, the empty nest is not so empty these days. What’s more, according to the PEW report, nearly half (44%) of young adults say they’ve needed and received some sort of financial assistance from their parents during the past year.¹

There are many good reasons for the financial pressures today’s young adults’ face: inflation, student debt and high mortgage rates, among them. Fortunately, for many parents, helping the kids isn’t a burden. In fact, in the PEW study, only 36% of parents said doing so had adversely impacted their financial situation somewhat in the last year.¹ These not-so-empty-nesters are more likely to be focused on finding ways to help their kids stand on their own financially.

“Of course, you want to be there for your children when they need financial help,” says Bank of America’s financial gerontologist, Cynthia Hutchins. “But the most important thing you may be able to give them is a refresher course in the financial basics.”  Below, she suggests some tips that can help you help your adult children manage the financial pressures they face and establish better money habits.

If your adult children are asking for help paying their bills, first ask them what’s causing the financial pressures they’re facing. “It can help to share some of the financial missteps you may have made when you were younger, as well as the financial lessons you wish you’d known back then,” says Hutchins. Let your kids see that financial mistakes can be overcome if they stick to a well-thought-out plan.

Then encourage them to create a budget that prioritizes expenses, designating some things as “needs” and others as “wants.”

Tell them about some of the trade-offs you had to make when you were starting out. Next, schedule some time for them to talk with your financial advisor, who can offer more perspective on the value of having a financial plan and ideas on how best to get back on track to pursuing their financial goals, like saving for a mortgage down payment or going back to school.

To encourage accountability, you could think about structuring your financial assistance in the form of a loan, Hutchins suggests. Put it in writing and set a mutually agreed upon schedule for repayment. While the IRS requires you to charge annual interest on loans made to family members, the minimum required rate is usually well below the interest charged by traditional lenders. IRS rules also require you to keep written documentation and a record of payments.²

If your financial support comes in the form of a large gift (the downpayment on a mortgage, for instance, or help paying off a student loan), consider positioning the gift as an early inheritance and adjusting your estate plan to avoid any potential sibling resentment.

Before you commit to providing financial support, it’s a good idea to sit down with your advisor to assess your current liquidity and cash flow situation and discuss how you might lend a hand without losing momentum on progress toward your own goals.

When talking with your children, be candid about the level of financial support you can offer and how long it can last. Consider limiting your financial contributions to helping to cover their essential expenses (car loan, yes; cable bill, maybe not so much) and only after they have personally covered as much of those expenses as they can. You may even want to give your adult child a deadline for moving out — a goal to work toward — and explain that your life plans (retiring, relocating, etc.) can’t be put on hold indefinitely.

Above all, emphasizes Hutchins, “Remember to pay yourself first. Never dip into money earmarked for your retirement, or you may end up being the one needing financial support when you grow older.” Remind the kids that they have 40 to 50+ years of earning power ahead of them — you don’t. They’ll understand.